The one easy thing all successful people do.

Have you noticed when you read successful people’s bio’s, posts and articles one word consistently shows up, that word is:

Grateful

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If you have been following me for a while you’ll know that I also put a lot of emphasis on being grateful.

Why? It’s one of the best ways to:
1) Put things in perspective and
2) Realize there are plenty of good things in your life.

So practicing gratitude is an immediate mood booster.

When you’re in an elevated state of mind it’s easier to spot opportunities and focus on all the positive things that are presented to you. Successful people are not lucky, they have just cultivated their “being grateful” skill!

So how do you start and get good at being grateful?

Simply write down 3 things you’re grateful for EVERY night before you go to bed. This will not only make you feel blessed, but it will also help you fall asleep while focusing on all the positive things in your life. It always leads to a better night’s sleep for me too.

As Tony Robbins, American life coach and self-help author, says: “When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.”

Remember to share this with a friend and tell me in the comments below how being grateful has helped you or whether you’ll give my tip a try!

Wishing you an amazingly successful week!

ox

Hanneke

Ps I also hope to see you at Pilates with Purpose on Tuesday March 3rd at 6:30p or at My Aerial Pilates Workshop Saturday March 7th at noon.

No one is too small to make a difference.

Good Morning,

I’ve always liked the actress Charlize Theron. She’s not only beautiful, but also talented and confident. And yes, maybe I’m a little biased because we’re both South African!

Her bold move to negotiate the same pay rate as her male costar, Chris Hemsworth, in the movie “The Huntsman” recently made me love her even more. Read the full article here.

Charlize made a valuable point: Equality for all brings greater good for everyone. In this specific example I see her as a great inspiration for two reasons:

1. She’s a reminder that the squeaky wheel gets the grease. It’s OK to speak up and say something or ask for something you believe in. You can do it in a way that’s not offensive, but rather sincere and firm.

2. Change only happens when you’re persistent. You can’t give up after just one try. If you truly want something to change, keep asking and working for it.

No one is too small to make a difference – and if you think you are, you haven’t spent a night with a mosquito!

ox,
Hanneke

ps – be sure to share this with a friend and join the conversation below by telling me what your favorite mantra is.

 

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Don’t become your own worst enemy.

I am a huge fan of the reality shows “Project Runway” and “Project Runway: All Stars.” I am fascinated by how quickly the designers can transform an idea on paper into a beautiful garment.

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This season is nearing its end, and one of my favorite designers recently got eliminated. (Spoiler alert: I am about to tell you his name, so if you’re not caught up, stop reading now.) His parting words really stuck with me and apply to all of us.

Jay said: “The competition got to me, to a point where I overthought things. I became my own worst enemy.”

How often do you do the same? Overthinking leads to confusion, and your confidence takes a beating. I’ve recently come to the conclusion that self-doubt often means you feel stuck. One part of you believes you can do it, while the other says, “Hell, no! There’s absolutely no way. You will fail.”

So how do you shake off that fear?

1. Fake it till you make it. Literally pump yourself up with positive quotes and sayings. Every time a negative thought creeps in, repeat an uplifting mantra. Something like: “I can do this. I am awesome!”

2. Dig down into your fear. Ask yourself: “What is the absolute worst thing that can happen if I fail at this?” Almost always my clients find that this will deflate their anxiety. It helps them to realize that even if you fail, it won’t be as bad as you fear.

3. Recommit. As Jay said: “I became my own worst enemy.” Sometimes you’ll feel stuck and lack confidence because you’re not truly committed to what you’ve set out to do. Ask yourself: Is this really something I want? If the answer is yes, then see what resources you need to help you succeed. If the answer is no, then give yourself permission to let it go and move on.

Remember that you bring something very unique to the table, so don’t let doubt rob you and the world of that special something.

ox,
Hanneke

ps – be sure to share this with a friend and join the conversation on the blog by telling me what your favorite mantra is.

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This is why it was the Best Superbowl commercial ever!

 

I don’t know about you, but I thought the Always #LikeAGirl Superbowl add was great.  It got quite a bit of criticism yesterday, but I still love it. It’s meant to empower young girls and raise the question:
 
“When did doing something “like a girl” become an insult?”
 
I don’t personally take offense when someone says: “don’t be such a girl”, cause you know what? I am a girl and so what?!
 
I grew up with two brothers who were 4 and 7 years older than I am, it’s needless to say that I was most definitely an odd little addition to our family. We would play cops and robbers, have sword fights like they do in Star Wars, and the closest we ever really came to a girl game was when my barbies were enrolled in the army!? (Yup, that really happened! LOL) My brothers didn’t really know what hit them when I came along. I was this little girl that wasn’t quite as tough as them, and they couldn’t play rough with me.
 
To top it off I also:
 
Ran like a girl,
 
Threw like a girl,
 
And did everything else like a girl. (You may think that I would have developed some tom boy tendencies due to my brother’s influence, but this picture will show you otherwise.
 

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I was as girly girl as you can get! (I still am.)
 
To make things even more of a nightmare for my brothers, I also cried easily. My brother Philip would always grab me, give me a big hug (mostly because he didn’t want me running to my mom and get him in trouble!) and say: “be a big girl, and don’t cry.”
 
Little did he know he was preparing his sister for the big world – to become a strong confident woman who would move to London all by herself, and work in one of the toughest industries for women: Wall Street. Later she would move to NY and Boston to follow her passion, love and dreams.
 
When I look back I know that I’ve been lucky to have a loving father, 2 supporting brothers and now a loving companion and partner who’s also my best friend.
 
Here’s what the men in my life have taught me about us ladies:
 
1) We don’t have to act like boys,
 
2) We don’t need to be anything else than just a girl.
 
3) We don’t have to change anything about ourselves to be popular, successful, powerful and great leaders.
 
All we need to do is be completely and truly our authentic girl selves, surround ourselves with men and women who support and appreciate the value we bring to the world. Know a friend that needs a little support right now? Share this post with her now! What’s your favorite empowering moment from when you grew up? Leave your comments below.
 
xo