Four Ways to become a networking machine! (Offline)

Offline networking is important. Whether you’re busy growing a new business or if you’re trying to get a new job, or simply just trying to add a few new friends, having a great network will help you accomplish anything you want faster!

Watch the video for my four top tips to improve your offline networking:

What do I mean by offline networking? I mean networking events that happen in person.

A great way to find some awesome networking events in your town is to go to Eventbrite and simply browse what is going on in your city. Once you’ve established some events to attend, you also want to make sure that you really get the most out of these networking events. I recently served on a panel for General Assembly, and we had some great takeaways that I’m going to be sharing with you today.

Four Ways to become an offline networking machine:
  1. Start viewing your connections as social capital. The founders of VentureFizz has coined this phrase. What they mean by that is, that your connections actually are worth something. Examples: I connected two of my friends a while ago, and together they grew a non-profit that has since helped a lot of other people, so it really created value in terms of money for others. I also recently met a woman at another networking event and we were discussing healthcare, and it turned out that she was paying about 10 times too much for her healthcare. All I did was put her in touch with my healthcare guy, and that then saved her money. So as you can see, there’s huge value in the connections that you already have.
  2. You want to view your networking a little bit like you’re going on a first date. So just like you wouldn’t walk into the room and immediately start to tell everybody everything about you, you’ll rather walk into a room and start asking less personal questions and get to know them better. So always make sure that you have a couple of questions in your back pocket that you can pull out whenever you’re feeling a little awkward in talking to people.
    Make sure that you’re adding value. So instead of walking into a room and just going, “Me, me, me.” You want to make sure that you first also add value to the person that you’re talking too. Start thinking about the connections that you have within your network that you can put this person in contact with and how that will help them. Networking is a lot like karma, what you put out there is most likely also going to come back to you. The more positive connections you can put out there and the more value you can give to other people, the more value you’ll receive in return.
  3. Lastly, you definitely want to remember to follow up with people. I know of so many people that I’ve met at networking events that never bother to email me back. That’s a big no-no. When you don’t follow up immediately, that person will forget who you are within a few days. And just because they can’t help you at this moment doesn’t mean that they won’t be able to help you later.

That’s just a few ways to help you become a better networker! Also be sure to read my “Three mistakes to avoid while networking” and “Wanna make networking fun” for more tips to become a networking machine!

Now I’d love to hear from you:

What are your best networking tips? What’s your biggest obstacle when it comes to networking? Tell me below, and feel free to ask me your network-related questions too:

 

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Gabrielle Bernstein’s top tip to figuring out your passion

unnamed-4A couple of weeks ago I had the pleasure of going to Gabrielle Bernstein’s book signing here in Boston. (Gabby’s a motivational speaker, life coach, and author.  Opera has had her as a guest on Super Soul Sundays and the New York Times featured her as a “guru” for the next generation.) She’s currently doing a book tour in the US to promote her new book “The Universe has your Back.”

 

 

 

 

If you’re in a job that you’re unhappy with at the moment, I have two takeaways for you:

  1. you’re not alone
  2. there is a real movement in the workforce to find meaningful and purposeful work right now

How do I know this?

  1. Gabby, who has a quarter of a million followers on Facebook, also addressed job dissatisfaction and trying to find what to do next in your career to bring meaning and purpose to your life, a few times during the book signing event. (This indicates that she sees this trend and movement to find a fulfilling career from her followers too.)
  2. Stanford University’s most popular course at the moment is a course called “Designing your life” – the course is similar to the principles, tools, and exercises I teach in my Bootcamp. The course’ primary focus is to help students design a career and life that’s both fulfilling and brings them happiness.

So what was her number one tip to help you figure out your next career move?

Stop trying to find what you love from a place of “I hate my job.” 

What does she mean by that? In the life coaching world, this is something we call reframing. You see, for you to find solutions to problems you have to pay close attention to your language and mindset and then reframe it.

Why?

Your words become your thoughts, and your thoughts become your actions. Those actions lead to your results.

Or like I said on Instagram once:

 

So if you’re constantly saying “I hate my job, I can’t stand my career” your brain keeps thinking thoughts surrounding this and can’t find creative solutions outside of that mindset.

So how can you shift your focus?

  1. Stop saying “I hate my job.”
  2. Start to look for everything in your job that is working
  3. Be grateful that you have a job that’s paying your bills and will be your investment source to help you get out of your current situation and onto a career you love.

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What is your biggest obstacle in your career right now? Or were you stuck in a job and figured out your next career? How did you do it? Remember your comment could be just the inspiration someone else needs to find their next job!

My biggest career regret & #RichCareerChallenge

Today I’ll share something that very few people know: My biggest career regret and the secret that led to my career transition aha moment. If you’re not feeling so hot about your career right now, be sure to read right till the end so you can sign up for my #RichCareerChallenge and create your confident and rich career!

 

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2 country transitions, 5 city transitions and 3 career industry transitions later, the one thing I regret more than not figuring out my ultimate career quicker is:

 

All the time I wasted not living my life

 

I literally spent countless days being miserable and not having fun. Instead of enjoying the journey as my career plans naturally unfolded, I took it all way too seriously and always felt like I was stuck. I felt that everyone else was living their dream and I was somehow missing out! (thank goodness we didn’t have social media back then, else I’d have some serious FOMO issues.)

 

You see I personally made the fatal mistake of letting my unhappiness in my career completely consume me. (Spoiler alert: a lot of us do this!) 

 

I would complain about my job constantly. My long stressful office days sucked the life out of my soul and so I declined numerous invitations to go live and do exciting social activities at night or over weekends.  These invitations could have given me joy and also freed up brain space and creativity to help me figure out my future career sooner.

 

I would even push the gym to the side! In my mind I HAD to figure out what I was going to do next and I had to do it right then and there. I put way to much pressure on myself and rush home from work just to hop on the computer to try and figure it all out. I thought I could push my new career out of myself and that Google would give me the answer to my future. 

 

This was a massive mistake for two reasons:

  1. I was isolating myself: a sure way to make yourself even more unhappy.
  2. I was thinking that I could solve my career conundrum all by myself, locked up in my house.

 

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I had literally put my happiness in that present moment on a big fat HOLD. How wrong I was!

 

I was doing exactly the opposite of what eventually helped me have my aha moment.

 

The very sad part to me is that I know I’m not alone. I see so many of my friends and my career transition clients do exactly the same thing.

 

Urgh… it literally makes me sick to my stomach! Look, I get it – this career transition business is important stuff but you don’t have to miss out on life or fun while you’re figuring out your next career move.

And that’s exactly how my career aha eventually happened!

You see in order for you to have your light bulb moment, you need to: 

  • get and keep yourself in a positive frame of mind
  • start living your life now
  • get out and be social
  • do away with all the drama and negativity

 

And that’s exactly what I’ll help you do in my #RichCareerChallenge, starting Monday March 8th!

 

In this 10 day challenge I’ll show you:

  • how to turn your office cubicle into an inspiring confidence boosting oasis
  • the one thing you need to do daily to help you feel better about your mediocre job
  • how to shift your focus to what is working in your life and how you can make it work even better
  • set clear boundaries on how much time you spend thinking of work and your future career
  • start living a full, happy and rich life now
  • how to be more productive in your career search

The challenge starts  Monday March 8th. Interested in joining this challenge? 

 

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What you’ll get when you sign up: 

  1. A daily email containing a challenge of the day + inspiring quote
  2. When you follow me on Instagram @hannakeantonelli you’ll also receive daily motivation via my Instagram feed. You’ll also get a secret #hastag so you can cheer on and be part of my successful career transition movement and connect with other like-minded ladies.
  3. You’ll automatically be enrolled in my bi-weekly newsletter with more tips you need to make your successful career transition happen.

 

Who is this challenge for:

  • anyone who’s currently unsatisfied with their job
  • anyone planning a career transition
  • anyone feeling stuck and pressured to make their next career move quickly
  • anyone with doubts about their current career trajectory
  • anyone in the process of applying for new jobs and feeling burned out/discouraged by the job market

And don’t worry you won’t have to think about your job or future one a second longer than you already do, in fact, you’ll think of it less and accomplish more!

Ready to start living now and be happy and confident again?

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Can you really have your cake and eat it too?

In the modern world that we live in, with so many amazing opportunities, it’s so easy to overeat at the success buffet, biting off more than you can chew and then being overwhelmed and unsatisfied.

Social media shows us everyone’s wins and amazing accomplishments. In magazines we read all about how celebs have it all: looks, successful acting careers, hot husbands and kids, etc… If you’re an ambitious cookie like myself, all of this may create some internal pressure to start saying yes to any and all opportunities.

That’s normally where it all goes ‘tits up’ as my British broker friends would say. In my last blog entry with Diane Daly, I loved her honest tip: “My advice to working moms or working women who are thinking of starting/expanding their family is that you can have it all – just not all at once.”

Her advice also got me thinking about a few of my favorite topics: goals, choices, balance and of course opportunities. How do you measure the right quantities of each to bake your perfect success story?

 

If you’re going to have your cake and eat it too, you first need to know exactly what kind of cake you’re baking. Get crystal clear on what you want for all parts of your life: your career, friends, family, fitness, health – what are all the ingredients?

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Being crystal clear on what you want will help you to stay focused on your own path and stop you from comparing yourself to others. It will also be way easier to figure out what opportunities to say yes too and which ones to let go.

Here are a few questions to help you get clear and figure out your unique life cake:

What is your definition of success?

What kind of work-life-balance are you looking for?

What are your personal and career goals?

How many hours a week do you want to devote to work, fitness, family etc?

Knowing the answer to these questions will help you seek out specific companies or career opportunities that will help you land the balance you’re looking for.

Try to get as specific as possible and take time regularly to evaluate where you are, where you want to be and adjust accordingly. Remember you can have your cake and eat it too by making choices and saying yes to opportunities that are in line with your ultimate career and life goals.

Now I’d love to hear from you: are you struggling to figure out what the right steps are to take for your career? What’s making it difficult for you? Have you cracked the code to striking the perfect balance between your life and career? Tell me your insights in the comments below. Your question/comment/answer could help someone else!

Going with the flow – and the momentum

Whether you’re trying to figure out your next career move or grow your business, it’s important to build some momentum to get the ball rolling and accomplish your goal.

So how do you build up that momentum?

A few months ago my coaching and Pilates businesses were extremely slow. I was getting a little frustrated and thought to myself: “Girl, what’s going on? Why are these things not picking up and growing?” And then on one of my continuing-education calls someone asked a really powerful question that changed the way I work.

After making this simple, yet very effective adjustment, I’ve doubled my coaching clients and added more Pilates clients, too. I also came up with a new program I’ll be running during the summer (click here for more information about that.).

It has triggered an absolute snowball effect, and I’ve never felt this invigorated or excited to achieve my goals.

Ask yourself this:

“What am I doing right now to grow my business?”

Even if you’re not a business owner or your goals are completely different, this question applies to you and your situation. So now I’d love to hear what your dream is and how you’ll use this question to get there. Fill in the blank and leave your response in the comments section: “What am I doing right now to achieve my goal of _____________?”

 

 

*** Also remember to join us today at Pilates with Purpose, this month we’re collaborating with the American Lunch Association.  We are raising awareness and funds for their LUNG FORCE campaign, which is a movement focused on raising awareness about lung cancer and working together to advance lung health. Get your tickets here.

Soul Sister Scoop: Q & A with My Pilates with Purpose Partner-in-crime.

Today we feature a very special lady: Kristen Scanlon. Kristen is an attorney who started her own business, specializing in Alcoholic Beverages, Food & Entertainment Licensing, Zoning, Permitting and Land Use Development. She’s also my Pilates with Purpose partner-in-crime. I first met Kristen in my Pilates classes a few years back. We quickly realized that we had a lot in common and were both trying to grow our respective businesses. In September 2014 we started the philanthropic networking event: Pilates with Purpose.

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Today Kristen’s shares some of her wins and challenges of working for herself with us.
 
Hanneke: What was the scariest part about leaving the formal law firm setting?
Kristen: It’s a tie between 1) not knowing how or when I’d get clients and 2) realizing that every decision now rose and fell on me. It was very nerve-racking to go out on my own and led to a lot of sleepless nights trying to figure it all out at once!
 
H: What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about working for yourself?
K: I’ve been able to gain clarity on my strengths and weaknesses really quickly. There isn’t a ton of room for ignoring weaknesses! For instance, I’ve gotten a lot better at time management and organizing my day because I have to. There is no choice. I have to fit it all in and make my schedule work for me, for my clients and for the growth of my business. It’s different from working in a firm and being told where to be and what to do all the time.
 
H: What’s been the most rewarding part of working for yourself?
K: Successfully completing a task or approval process for a client and knowing I made it happen, not a partner above me in a big firm. Also, being able to build my own relationships directly with clients and the community because a lot of what I do depends on the input of the community.
 
H: Where do you see your business in 5 years?
K: I like that meme that says: “5 year plan: not looking at price tags when I’m shopping.” haha. Maybe with a few employees, I’m really not sure to be honest. I just take it one day at a time with the hopes that the decisions I make have potential to turn into something greater in the future. It’s kind of like a long game of chess. But ultimately I want to be successful in the industry that I’m in.
 
H: What advice would you like to give others who are thinking of starting their own business? K: Be very clear on the mission of your business. Never be too proud to accept help when it’s offered. Make sure you’ve got the personality and intestinal fortitude to really take a stab at it alone.

 


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Go from sole sister and flying solo in business to a supported soul sister in my Soul Sister Series: A mastermind for sole proprietors & entrepreneurs.

This series is perfect for you if you’re a passionate business lady who absolutely love what you do, but lately you’ve been feeling:

  • Isolated and overwhelmed and wish you had someone to bounce ideas off of.
  • You’ve hit a ceiling and can’t seem to figure out how to take your business to that next level
  • You feel like you’re missing something and you’re stuck.

A little background about me: I am Hanneke – a certified Life Coach and I am here to help you grow your business with my Soul Sister Series. My Mastermind series has been designed to help you grow your business and take it to the next level. Before we get there:

I used to work as a money broker for 4 years before I started my own Pilates with Hanneke business in 2011. I quickly grew it to an award winning brand. Today I still teach Pilates and also have 6 workout videos available for download online, co-founded Pilates with Purpose, the philanthropic networking event to empower women in business and run my own coaching practice.

I have also worked with different coaches to help me grow and succeed and take regular continuing education courses to serve my clients at the highest level.

Now I’m here to help you grow and succeed in your business with my Soul Sister Series.

Who is this mastermind for:
Women entrepreneurs who have been in business for 2 + years and want to grow their business to the next level.

Benefits of joining this Mastermind Group:

  • Help grow your business with expert advice
  • Support from like-minded women who are going through the same wins and challenges as yourself
  • Find the inspiration and motivation you need to grow your business.
  • Gain perspective and find new ways to take your business to the next level.
  • Accountability partners at your fingertips ready to serve and help you overcome any challenge you may have.

If you’re interested in participating in a program like this, please take this quick 2min survey here. Also feel free to contact me at hannekeantonelli@gmail.com if you have any questions, comments or feedback. Thank you! Please note that if you don’t live in Boston or these times don’t work for you – I will also be offering this mastermind via Skype! Email me if you’re interested.

New 4 part video series: How to find your perfect next position

I completely understand how hard and confusing it can be when you’re not happy in your current situation and don’t really know what to look for next. I was in this very situation when I left my Wall Street job and started to teach Pilates. You see – the first time around as Pilates instructor I panicked and quickly jumped back into an institutional sales position. My very first week at that job, I just knew I had made a mistake. I’d like to help you avoid these mistakes.

In my new 4 part video series I take you through 4 quick tips on how to get your dream job, without wasting time or making silly career miss steps like I did. You’ll get one tip per video, once per month.

Get your first tip now:

Here’s what you can look forward to in my newsletters every Tuesday to help you navigate career & life transitions:
1st & 3rd Tuesday of the month: A blog filled with tips & action steps.
2nd Tuesday of the month: A short video with more tips & advice.
4th Tuesday of the month: The Soul Sister Scoop – a Q & A to help inspire you to create your dream career & life.

Have you ever been in this career changing boat? How did you go about in finding your next position? Your comment can help & inspire someone else! Join the conversation in the comments below.

As always, if this was helpful or if you have a friend who could benefit from these tips, be sure to forward and share it with them on the social buttons below.

ps – Are you busy growing your career & family? Join me on May 7th at the Boston Harbor Hotel. I’ll be sitting on a panel with other experts at Tufts Medical Center & Boston Magazine’s “It’s your time baby! Starting a family, while growing a career” event for more tips on how to navigate your new and exciting challenge. Sign up here.

xo Hanneke
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Introducing the Soul Sister Series: The scoop from women who succeeded in career & life transitions.

I’m so super stoked about today’s entry. It’s been in the works for months, and today it’s here and ready for you. Starting this month I’ll be running this series every last Tuesday of the month.

As you know, my main focus as a life coach is to support you while you navigate career and life transitions. I am here to help you build a career that lines up with your ultimate definition of success so you can take action and start your own business or get that next big promotion.

As extra inspiration, I’m launching the Soul Sister Series, a new monthly Q&A feature with amazing women who have already gone through these transitions. I hope their success stories will motivate you to start achieving your own.


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We kick off the series with Kristin Quinn, who writes the Boston-based blog Misadventures in Mommyhood, which has led to TV appearances. In addition to Kristin’s interesting thoughts, we thought we’d make it even more fun and give you a chance to win a copy of Kristin’s book. So make sure you read all the way to the end to see how you can win.

For those of you considering starting your own blog or improving the one you already have, Kristin is going to give us a few tips and honest truths about running your own business as a blogger.

Hanneke: What made you decide to start your blog?
Kristin: About a month into nursing my first child, I started writing down all of the funny thoughts that would come to me in the middle of the night. That “journal” turned into my first-ever blog entry, “Tales From the Boob.”

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H: Did you ever think you’d turn it into your full-time job?
K: Not right off the bat. It was more of a way to document my navigation through new mommyhood. I didn’t want to forget a thing, and I wanted other new moms to know they weren’t alone. I have a background in baby-product marketing, and as time went on, I realized I could make a business out of it!

H: What’s the best tip you’d give someone who’s wanting to start a blog?
K: Have something interesting to say and then say it. It’s really as simple as that. People want to read about real-life experiences from your own voice. And don’t hold back! The entertainment value comes from the brutal honesty.

H: What’s been the hardest thing about working for yourself?
K: Knowing when to put down my work. When I had a job in an office, the boundaries were there. The hours were set in stone. Now there is no end time. My work is always right there, staring me in the face and waiting for me to finish. It doesn’t matter if it’s Saturday at 3 p.m. or Monday at 9 a.m. There are deadlines and new opportunities always popping up.

H: What’s been you biggest accomplishment so far?
K: My children, 100 percent. I put everything into raising them. I want to provide the right balance of letting them figure things out on their own and guiding them the best I can. It’s the hardest job I’ve ever had – and the best. The second biggest accomplishment I would say is my TV appearances lately. I never, ever thought I would gain that type of recognition. It feels really good to have someone trust you to represent their product or brand on TV to a larger audience.

To enter and stand a chance to win Kristin’s book – we’d like to hear from you: Are you toying with the idea of starting a blog? What’s the main thing that’s stopping you from doing it? Tell us in the comment section below to be entered and be sure to follow Kristin’s blog here. Winners will be announced on Facebook on Wednesday April 1st so head on over!

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Be a rich connector.

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Does the word networking make you go yuck? Rest assured you are not alone. Unfortunately, making connections and building a strong network is the only way to grow your business or land that next big job.

To help us all get over the icky-stickiness of it. I put together these tips to make your connections more valuable and networking more fun.

1) Do your homework about the host organization before you show up. Find out what the demographic of the group is, how often it meets, how many members it has, etc. This will save you time and help you make better connections.

2) Put some conversation starters in your bag of charm. Talking with strangers can be daunting. I get that. Overcome these hurdles by writing down good conversation starters and questions. Think of great interactions you’ve had recently and consider what sparked them.

3) Get creative. Normally the first question you’ll be asked after your name is, “What do you do?” Instead of telling people your job title, which just stifles conversation, tell them your job description. Make it fun, witty, and interesting. An example for an accountant: “I help my company stay profitable and prevent it from going bankrupt.” This will lead to follow-up questions, maybe a giggle, and before you know it, the conversation is flowing without those uneasy lulls.

4) Remember that no contact is a waste. Everyone you meet could possibly be of assistance in some capacity. Think of the bigger picture. This contact can come in handy later when someone in your network needs this particular person’s expertise. You’ll be able to put the two in touch, and perhaps they’ll both refer people to you in the future.

5) Turn your day into a networking opportunity. Whether you’re traveling, on the subway, or grabbing a quick coffee, there are always people around and chances to engage. Use them to get to know people. I do this all the time; in fact, striking up random conversations led me to my first real job opportunity in college, and it’s also how I met my husband. The key is: Be active and stay engaged.

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xo

Hanneke