Heads or Tails?

Heads or tails?

I recently had to make a tough decision: Do I teach more Pilates classes? Literally in just one week I had four teaching opportunities show up in my inbox. And I was so tempted to say yes to all of them.

In the past I would have been very torn and might have said yes simply out of fear of missing out on something good. Later I would have regretted my decision or realized I took on too much. This would have led to dealing with the next set of emotions of failing, letting people down, or being viewed as unreliable and flaky.

Although I was flattered by all the opportunities, it ended up being quite easy to decide which ones to pursue and which to let go of.

Here’s how I did it:


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1. Clarity. At the beginning of the year I set very strategic goals for myself. As you know, I’m trying to ramp up my life-coaching business, and as a result I’ve set clear guidelines of when and how much I should be teaching Pilates. Anything beyond than those guidelines is a big “no thank you!”

2. Abundance. I believe opportunities are a little like buses: There will always be another one. No, it won’t be the same one, but if you really want something and work for it, other ventures will come your way. So if you let this one go and realize later you should have taken it, manifest a new possibility for yourself. This also pulls you away from the “what if I make a mistake?” mindset.

3. Trusting my gut. If an opportunity doesn’t excite me, I don’t go for it. Yes, initially I was thrilled by the variety, but then as time went by, the excitement for some of them wore off. I immediately scratched them off my list and moved on. I literally set them free for someone else to have, knowing that the right opportunity will come my way when it’s ready.

Now I’d like to hear from you. How do you decide whether an opportunity is right for you? Or perhaps you struggle to know which is the best one? What’s making it hard to decide? Tell me in the comments below.

JanYOUary – this month it’s all about you.

JanYOUary is most definitely all about you! As we hit the ground running for a successful year, don’t forget to give yourself some TLC. You have great goals you’ve stet out to accomplish and the best way to achieve them is to keep making good choices that benefit you.

I stumbled across this post by @kristinquinnmom yesterday:
“In the end… I am the ONLY ONE who can give my children a Happy Mother, who loves life”
I love this because it doesn’t only pertain to Moms, it’s applicable to all of us. We can swap out the words to cover everything in life and the lesson stays the same: In the end YOU and only you are in charge of your happiness and your attitude towards life. YOU make this conscious choice.  

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Over the next few weeks we’ll dig deeper to help you avoid the 3 common mistakes you make when it comes to choosing YOU.

1) Feeling guilty for putting yourself first. Blog entry scheduled for Jan 13th, sign up to get it delivered to your inbox here.

2) You skip out on your own health to save money. Blog entry scheduled for Jan 20th, sign up to get it delivered to your inbox here.

3)You don’t book personal days/vacations in advance. Blog entry scheduled for Jan 27th, sign up to get it delivered to your inbox here.

Start choosing YOU today and sign up for a great little stay-cation day with me in Boston at my Pilates Pamper workshop or join me this weekend at my Pilates Bootcamp.

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