Five secret tips you need to keep & accomplish new year’s resolutions!

I find this time of year to be so exciting; there is hope and vision of what the year may hold for us. Dreams of big achievements and more. We set goals, make new year’s resolutions and vision boards.

Then somewhere in the middle of January reality kicks in, the wheels come off, we lose our mojo and just like that January 22nd becomes the most depressing day of the year.

But what would it be like if you could keep your focus and dedication? If you could be in possibility mode all year long, what would you be able to accomplish then?

Imagine what your life and business would be like if you could accomplish all your goals.

Here are my five secret (tried and tested) tips to keep you focused and motivated to do exactly that:

1) Make sure you set goals that are SMART.
This means your goals are specific; they are measurable and achievable/attainable, your goals are realistic (and I like to add – somewhat risky), and last but not least they have a timeline (deadline).

2) Know why you want to accomplish these goals and be sure that they hold intrinsic value to you.
Intrinsic goals are goals that will personally bring you joy etc. when they are achieved. E.g. you want to lose 20lbs because it will boost your confidence (intrinsic) vs. you want to lose 20lbs, so other people will call you sexy (extrinsic). Or you want to get a higher paying job because you want to travel more (intrinsic) vs. it will please your spouse (extrinsic).

3) Install daily positive anchors and reminders of your goals and what it will be like when you achieve them.
Set reminders in your calendar, pictures on your desk or quotes as your screen saver. Make sure that where ever you turn you have positive reinforcements to help you stay motivated and focused.

4) Join a mastermind or get a coach.
Both of these will give you the accountability you need and will help you come up with effective strategies and inspiration to achieve your goals. If you need a mastermind – read more about joining my Savvy Success Masterminds here; or if you’re interested, remember you can book an intro call for private coaching sessions here.)

5) Forgive yourself and get back at it.
Be sure to be kind to yourself if you slip up or make a mistake. This one may be last on the list, but it shouldn’t be viewed as less important than the others. Practicing forgiveness and self-love will save you time and dramatically improve your chances of achieving your goals.

By using these tips I’ve personally been able to accomplish so much more and I’ve also helped my clients to do the same.

Happy New Year!

P.S. If you’re a business owner who’d like to join an exclusive and supporting group of women who can serve as your champions and expert panel, be sure to check out my savvy success mastermind groups here. Registration is now open until Feb 14th. Read more here.

 

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Holiday Season Survival Kit

Four easy tips to stay grounded, built trust and grow your network!

When an old Pilates connection recently reached out to ask if I’d lead their women’s leadership group through a hands-on workshop, I was thrilled at the opportunity! I got to coach the team through an array or topics like how to step up and own their role as leader and how to overcome the challenges that are keeping them from leaning in harder.

Listening to the hurdles that all of us face on a daily basis got me thinking just how hectic our lives are and how hard we are on ourselves. During the holidays it all just get crazier.

Here are four easy tips to survive the holidays (and life):

  1. Breath (Four breath pattern)relax in under 30 seconds
    A quick few rounds of the four breath pattern can instantly calm and ground you.
    How it works: Take a breath in for four counts, hold it for four, breath out for four, hold it for four, and repeat a few times.
    I love this one because we don’t always have a chance to meditate or go to the gym. This can be a quick and easy SOS whenever you need it.
  2. Reflectset yourself up for success in 2017
    Take five to ten minutes to take stock of your year: What went well in your career and business this year? What did you accomplish? What are you most proud of? We’re always looking ahead and reaching for the next thing, so it’s easy to forget how much you’ve done and how far you’ve come. Give yourself a big fat high five for your journey!
  3. Ask for helpanother way to lean in
    We are not islands, and we can’t do it all alone. We often think that asking for help is a complete taboo because others will believe that we’re weak or worse: stupid. In the workshop yesterday, we discovered the contrary. Asking for help can be a great opportunity to build trust and rapport, plus it strengthens the connection with your team and peers. Think about how awesome you feel when people ask for your help!It’s a win-win situation: you get to learn, grow and feel supported, and your colleagues/friends/family get to feel good about helping and sharing their knowledge.
  4. Embrace the seasonget out and network
    Everyone’s in the holiday cheer, so now is a great time to get out there and make new connections. Growing your network now will help you prosper and flourish in 2017.

Whatever you do: be sure to enjoy, embrace and fah-la-la-la-laa-la-la-la-lahhhh! No seriously, though, have fun this season!

With lots of love and warm wishes – your business and career coach,
x Hanneke

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What it takes to make a successful career transition:

Let’s face it changing careers can be stressful, but there are a few steps that you can take to make the transition less daunting.

 

Here are the 4 things you’ll have to do to make your career transition successful:

 

  1. Allow yourself to evolve and be creative
  2. Be committed to finding your passion
  3. Compartmentalize your fear
  4. Get out of your own way and just go for it

 

Let me me explain exactly what I mean here:

When I made my massive industry change from Wall Street broker to Pilates instructor the first time around (that’s right, I actually did a double whammy, which I’ll tell you about soon.) I unknowingly gave myself permission to evolve and think outside the confinements of a typical career. I got really creative with what I wanted and how I could make it happen.

 

I was fed up enough with my current work environment which meant I was 100% committed to making the leap to find my passion. This strong urge to find something that would make me happy made it a little easier to tell my fear to take a back seat while I figured out what I wanted for my future. You see, I didn’t allow my fear to block me from going for what I wanted most in life. I also realized that the longer I stayed in a job that I strongly disliked the harder it would be to leave eventually.

 

To remind me of this fact I had a whole bunch of older co-workers who were miserable in their jobs but were completely stuck because they never allowed themselves to think outside of the box or pushed themselves outside their own comfort zone.  I knew I didn’t want to wake up one day and be one of those people.

 

Now don’t get me wrong, I definitely didn’t have it all figured out up front, but here’s what I did know:

  1. I knew I was interested and loved movement,
  2. I knew more or less how much I could earn teaching Pilates and that it would be enough to support the lifestyle I wanted

 

I gave some room for the process to evolve creatively and didn’t pressure it to be a specific way. Most importantly: I kept believing in myself and worked towards fulfilling my dream of finding a career I was passionate about.

 

Now I’d love to hear from you: 

Have you made a career transition? How did you overcome your fear? What helped you make a successful career transition?

Or

Perhaps you’re thinking of changing jobs? Which one of these tips was most helpful to you? Or what’s holding you back?

 

Remember your question or answer could help someone else have a rich learning experience too!  

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

If you’re planning a career transition and want more tips and advice on how to develop your career and find what you love to do, come and hear me speak at General Assembly and VentureFizz’s #OFFCAMPUS event March 24th. Grab your tickets here and read more about this week long festival! 

Unplug & Unwind

I’m exactly one month away from my yearly visit to my family in South Africa, needless to say I’m super excited. Lots of sun, great food, wine and no cell phones!

That’s right – I leave my phone at home. This forces me to unplug and reflect. Subsequently I get ample time to do some creative planning for the year ahead.

Don’t get me wrong, I love the internet and I’m grateful to have this amazing tool to help me run my business, but every now and then I wish I could break away from all the tech stuff here in Boston too.

As we prepare to hit the madness of the holiday season with last minute tasks to wrap up before 2015 runs out, not to mention all the parties we’ll be attending, it’s needless to say things are bound to get hectic.

So I wanted to share my 3 top tips to help you unplug without having to take a trip to a remote country:

  1. Unplug at the gym: put your phone on airplane mode or leave it in the locker room. I can’t even tell you the amount of times I’m in the middle of a workout just to be interrupted by texts, emails and phone calls. This obviously has the opposite effect that I hoped my workout would have, but it also makes it less productive.
  2. Go running outside with your Ipod remember that one? I’ve been doing this a lot lately and it’s so great to really be present with nature, to see the beautiful leaves etc.
  3. Tech-less Sundays: On Sundays shut your phone off, leave it at home or put it on airplane mode. I accidentally left my phone at home a couple of Sundays ago when I was off to yoga and brunch. At first I was all freaked out about it, but then after yoga it was so great to just be present with my friend and not habitually obsessively check my phone.

Now I’d love to hear from you! What’s your favorite way to unplug and what do you love most about it? Leave your comments below:

 

Also check out some of the pics and videos from my retreat to Iceland with VegaVitality.

 

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Have you been to Iceland? What was your favorite part about it? Tell me in the comments below & get my full tip list for a balanced Holiday season as featured on the Balanced Inspired Life, by Robin Long here.

Positive or negative: It’s your choice.

A few months ago my skin was totally acting up. As in, “Hello again, teenage acne!” I had been to a few dermatologists, spent $400 on prescriptions, and still the nasty intruders kept showing up to have a little party on my face.

Fed up, I turned to Google and discovered much more than I had been looking for. I found this thought-provoking sentence that got me thinking about much more than just clear skin.

“Let’s get real: Strategy really means nothing if you don’t have the mindset to back it up.”

That came from “The Love Vitamin,” a blog by Tracy Raftl, who teaches women how to heal their skin naturally.

Bingo, Tracy. You can have all the plans and tools in the world and come up with all the necessary action steps. But if you’re not in the right frame of mind, you won’t achieve a thing. There are also studies that suggest about 70 to 80 percent of our daily thoughts are negative.

But how on earth do you sustain a positive mindset that’s also focused?

Here are my top three tools to combat negativity and achieve anything you dream of:

1.   Meditate. Taking only 10 minutes a day to be quiet and center and ground yourself works wonders to move you to a headspace conducive to success.
2.   Be grateful. Rather than think about what you don’t have, focus on what you do have and appreciate those gems. “Trade your expectations for appreciation, and your whole world changes instantly.” – Tony Robbins
3.   Stop talking smack. Lose the gossip and hurtful talk about others. Instead, praise people more for their achievements. When you give compliments and you see how much people appreciate them, you, too, will instantly feel happier and more positive.



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Remember: “ We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle

Oh, and my skin? It’s much better now, thanks to a few supplements recommended by “The Love Vitamin”: more water and sleep.

Now I’d love to here from you: what are your top tips to combat negativity? Leave your comments below!
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Going with the flow – and the momentum

Whether you’re trying to figure out your next career move or grow your business, it’s important to build some momentum to get the ball rolling and accomplish your goal.

So how do you build up that momentum?

A few months ago my coaching and Pilates businesses were extremely slow. I was getting a little frustrated and thought to myself: “Girl, what’s going on? Why are these things not picking up and growing?” And then on one of my continuing-education calls someone asked a really powerful question that changed the way I work.

After making this simple, yet very effective adjustment, I’ve doubled my coaching clients and added more Pilates clients, too. I also came up with a new program I’ll be running during the summer (click here for more information about that.).

It has triggered an absolute snowball effect, and I’ve never felt this invigorated or excited to achieve my goals.

Ask yourself this:

“What am I doing right now to grow my business?”

Even if you’re not a business owner or your goals are completely different, this question applies to you and your situation. So now I’d love to hear what your dream is and how you’ll use this question to get there. Fill in the blank and leave your response in the comments section: “What am I doing right now to achieve my goal of _____________?”

 

 

*** Also remember to join us today at Pilates with Purpose, this month we’re collaborating with the American Lunch Association.  We are raising awareness and funds for their LUNG FORCE campaign, which is a movement focused on raising awareness about lung cancer and working together to advance lung health. Get your tickets here.

Soul Sister Scoop: Q & A with My Pilates with Purpose Partner-in-crime.

Today we feature a very special lady: Kristen Scanlon. Kristen is an attorney who started her own business, specializing in Alcoholic Beverages, Food & Entertainment Licensing, Zoning, Permitting and Land Use Development. She’s also my Pilates with Purpose partner-in-crime. I first met Kristen in my Pilates classes a few years back. We quickly realized that we had a lot in common and were both trying to grow our respective businesses. In September 2014 we started the philanthropic networking event: Pilates with Purpose.

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Today Kristen’s shares some of her wins and challenges of working for herself with us.
 
Hanneke: What was the scariest part about leaving the formal law firm setting?
Kristen: It’s a tie between 1) not knowing how or when I’d get clients and 2) realizing that every decision now rose and fell on me. It was very nerve-racking to go out on my own and led to a lot of sleepless nights trying to figure it all out at once!
 
H: What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about working for yourself?
K: I’ve been able to gain clarity on my strengths and weaknesses really quickly. There isn’t a ton of room for ignoring weaknesses! For instance, I’ve gotten a lot better at time management and organizing my day because I have to. There is no choice. I have to fit it all in and make my schedule work for me, for my clients and for the growth of my business. It’s different from working in a firm and being told where to be and what to do all the time.
 
H: What’s been the most rewarding part of working for yourself?
K: Successfully completing a task or approval process for a client and knowing I made it happen, not a partner above me in a big firm. Also, being able to build my own relationships directly with clients and the community because a lot of what I do depends on the input of the community.
 
H: Where do you see your business in 5 years?
K: I like that meme that says: “5 year plan: not looking at price tags when I’m shopping.” haha. Maybe with a few employees, I’m really not sure to be honest. I just take it one day at a time with the hopes that the decisions I make have potential to turn into something greater in the future. It’s kind of like a long game of chess. But ultimately I want to be successful in the industry that I’m in.
 
H: What advice would you like to give others who are thinking of starting their own business? K: Be very clear on the mission of your business. Never be too proud to accept help when it’s offered. Make sure you’ve got the personality and intestinal fortitude to really take a stab at it alone.

 


JOIN THE SOUL SISTER SERIES:
Go from sole sister and flying solo in business to a supported soul sister in my Soul Sister Series: A mastermind for sole proprietors & entrepreneurs.

This series is perfect for you if you’re a passionate business lady who absolutely love what you do, but lately you’ve been feeling:

  • Isolated and overwhelmed and wish you had someone to bounce ideas off of.
  • You’ve hit a ceiling and can’t seem to figure out how to take your business to that next level
  • You feel like you’re missing something and you’re stuck.

A little background about me: I am Hanneke – a certified Life Coach and I am here to help you grow your business with my Soul Sister Series. My Mastermind series has been designed to help you grow your business and take it to the next level. Before we get there:

I used to work as a money broker for 4 years before I started my own Pilates with Hanneke business in 2011. I quickly grew it to an award winning brand. Today I still teach Pilates and also have 6 workout videos available for download online, co-founded Pilates with Purpose, the philanthropic networking event to empower women in business and run my own coaching practice.

I have also worked with different coaches to help me grow and succeed and take regular continuing education courses to serve my clients at the highest level.

Now I’m here to help you grow and succeed in your business with my Soul Sister Series.

Who is this mastermind for:
Women entrepreneurs who have been in business for 2 + years and want to grow their business to the next level.

Benefits of joining this Mastermind Group:

  • Help grow your business with expert advice
  • Support from like-minded women who are going through the same wins and challenges as yourself
  • Find the inspiration and motivation you need to grow your business.
  • Gain perspective and find new ways to take your business to the next level.
  • Accountability partners at your fingertips ready to serve and help you overcome any challenge you may have.

If you’re interested in participating in a program like this, please take this quick 2min survey here. Also feel free to contact me at hannekeantonelli@gmail.com if you have any questions, comments or feedback. Thank you! Please note that if you don’t live in Boston or these times don’t work for you – I will also be offering this mastermind via Skype! Email me if you’re interested.

Introducing the Soul Sister Series: The scoop from women who succeeded in career & life transitions.

I’m so super stoked about today’s entry. It’s been in the works for months, and today it’s here and ready for you. Starting this month I’ll be running this series every last Tuesday of the month.

As you know, my main focus as a life coach is to support you while you navigate career and life transitions. I am here to help you build a career that lines up with your ultimate definition of success so you can take action and start your own business or get that next big promotion.

As extra inspiration, I’m launching the Soul Sister Series, a new monthly Q&A feature with amazing women who have already gone through these transitions. I hope their success stories will motivate you to start achieving your own.


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We kick off the series with Kristin Quinn, who writes the Boston-based blog Misadventures in Mommyhood, which has led to TV appearances. In addition to Kristin’s interesting thoughts, we thought we’d make it even more fun and give you a chance to win a copy of Kristin’s book. So make sure you read all the way to the end to see how you can win.

For those of you considering starting your own blog or improving the one you already have, Kristin is going to give us a few tips and honest truths about running your own business as a blogger.

Hanneke: What made you decide to start your blog?
Kristin: About a month into nursing my first child, I started writing down all of the funny thoughts that would come to me in the middle of the night. That “journal” turned into my first-ever blog entry, “Tales From the Boob.”

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H: Did you ever think you’d turn it into your full-time job?
K: Not right off the bat. It was more of a way to document my navigation through new mommyhood. I didn’t want to forget a thing, and I wanted other new moms to know they weren’t alone. I have a background in baby-product marketing, and as time went on, I realized I could make a business out of it!

H: What’s the best tip you’d give someone who’s wanting to start a blog?
K: Have something interesting to say and then say it. It’s really as simple as that. People want to read about real-life experiences from your own voice. And don’t hold back! The entertainment value comes from the brutal honesty.

H: What’s been the hardest thing about working for yourself?
K: Knowing when to put down my work. When I had a job in an office, the boundaries were there. The hours were set in stone. Now there is no end time. My work is always right there, staring me in the face and waiting for me to finish. It doesn’t matter if it’s Saturday at 3 p.m. or Monday at 9 a.m. There are deadlines and new opportunities always popping up.

H: What’s been you biggest accomplishment so far?
K: My children, 100 percent. I put everything into raising them. I want to provide the right balance of letting them figure things out on their own and guiding them the best I can. It’s the hardest job I’ve ever had – and the best. The second biggest accomplishment I would say is my TV appearances lately. I never, ever thought I would gain that type of recognition. It feels really good to have someone trust you to represent their product or brand on TV to a larger audience.

To enter and stand a chance to win Kristin’s book – we’d like to hear from you: Are you toying with the idea of starting a blog? What’s the main thing that’s stopping you from doing it? Tell us in the comment section below to be entered and be sure to follow Kristin’s blog here. Winners will be announced on Facebook on Wednesday April 1st so head on over!

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Kelly Clarkson’s coaching tips.

So I was driving to class the other night and Kelly Clarkson’s song “Stronger” came up on the radio. Nothing better than turning the volume way up and singing along at the top of your lungs. Even better was that the words to the song inspired this post.

Kelly Clarkson: Stronger

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, stronger
Just me, myself, and I
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn’t mean I’m lonely when I’m alone

 

Yes, this song is ultimately about a breakup. But there are also two powerful lessons to apply to life in general:

 

1) “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”
Letting go of people who don’t serve you in a positive way is crucial to moving onward and upward. So is shedding things that don’t help you attain your ultimate goal. That doesn’t mean it won’t hurt a little or be difficult. Remember: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, stand a little taller.” You want to look at the bigger picture and your longer-term goals.

 

2) “Doesn’t mean I’m lonely when I’m alone”
Society puts a strange amount of pressure on never being alone: You’re supposed to be in a couple or always with friends. On a subconscious level this feeds into our brains and inner selves. Which makes us think being alone is either embarrassing or bad for you.

 

But the famous line that “you can’t give love if you don’t love yourself” bears more truth than you might realize. You were put on this earth as a perfect little package. You already have everything you need to survive within you, to guide you and help you get what you want out of life. I like to refer to this as your inner wisdom.

 

All the other friendships and connections are icing on the cake, helping you to be an even happier person. But if you’re only latching on to everything and everyone else outside of yourself to find your happiness, you’re in for a huge disappointment. Your happiness starts inside yourself: “Just me, myself, and I.”

Actionsteps

In today’s Action Steps, learn how to love your own company.

 

1) Take yourself to lunch, dinner, a movie, or whatever you enjoy. Appreciate the “you” time.

 

2) Make a list of all your good qualities and give yourself a high five for being a fun and loving person.

3) Who or what are the negative pitfalls that keep you from achieving your goals? Spend less time and energy or avoid these altogether.
 
I have a special announcement for next week’s newsletter, so be sure to get your friends to sign up for my newsletter and share in the excitement. Enjoy the last little bit of summer!

 

 

Everyone’s fighting a battle you know nothing about.

What I love about coaching is how much I learn from my clients and how amazing their progress really is. The stories that they bring me, their challenges, their wins and how they become more and more aware. How they implement the skills I help them uncover. How they learn to put these new skills into action in our sessions and in their lives is something truly powerful and sometimes even magical.
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In today’s blog I’d like to share one of these with you. (Please note that permission to share this story was obtained beforehand. All my sessions are strictly confidential, unless otherwise authorised by the client.)

 

A few weeks ago when one of my clients walked in, I could physically feel the weight of what she had been through since our previous meeting enter the room with her. She had had a really rough couple of weeks. Her old, pre-life coached, self would have crumbled under everything she had to deal with. However she used all the new skills in her toolbox to beat back every curve ball that life had threw at her. One of the overwhelming events was her apartment almost burning down! This resulted in her having to lug almost all of her stuff to the dry cleaners for cleaning and storage.

 

On one of her many rushed trips to the laundromat the owner pulled her aside. He started to thank her and told her how she had saved his business.

 

Her loss had been his gain. He had had cancer a little while ago and the manager who looked after his shop ran the place into the ground. If it hadn’t been for her bringing in all her stuff he would have lost his business.

 

Although what had happened to my client was not pleasant, to say the least, she became more aware of the bigger picture. His words gave her the extra bit of motivation she needed to see her misfortune with new perspective. She experienced first hand how her actions had a ripple effect, even if she couldn’t see it. That doesn’t mean the experience didn’t suck, or that she had to put a happy face on it. She just started to realize how lucky she was in the grand scheme of things and how much she had to be grateful for… As my client finished her story we were both teary eyed.

 

ActionstepsAction Steps:

1) We often act like we are the center of the universe. And that our problems are the worst and biggest. Take a moment to notice and be kind to strangers around you, realize that just like yourself, they also have their own battles that they’re fighting.

2) Don’t take it all so personally. How strangers act and react towards you, almost always has nothing to do with you.

3) Then take another moment to reflect on everything you have that you are fortunate enough to have.

 

Realize that you can make or break someone’s day without even knowing you’re doing it. Always try to be the best version of yourself, you never know what impact you can have.