On today’s calendar: YOU!

Today we look at the third and final point in our ongoing series on the three most common mistakes we make when we put ourselves first: Not taking the down time you deserve. Most of us in the North East of the US has been snowed in for the day, so we’re forced to take some down time today. But seriously, when was the last time you took a day just for you?

I’ll be honest: This is a trap I often fall into myself. It’s so important to book personal days well in advance, because we all know that it just never happens when things get busy and crazy. All of a sudden you realize there’s too much to do, enough so that you postpone a personal day until you finally crash and burn.

At that point it usually takes way more than a day to recover. Blocking off some personal time will help you to recharge and refresh so you can face and conquer all your obstacles.

As I said in my JanYOUary blog entry: It’s necessary to take care of yourself so that you can help others.

And while you’re at it, go ahead and book that vacation, too. It’ll give you something to look forward to, and it can also serve as a great reward for all your hard work.

I speak to so many people who never take all their vacation time. Why wouldn’t you? Your company is paying you to take those days. Work can and will function without you there, I promise. When you’re all refreshed from some time off, you’ll get even more done.

Look at your calendar right now and book a few days just for you. What days are you taking and what are you going to do for yourself? Tell me below.

Saving money, but at what expense?

Today we discuss the second point in our ongoing series , JanYOUary – it’s all about you, on the three most common mistakes we make when we put ourselves first. Let’s talk about what happens when you try to save money at the expense of your health.
Right now, with all the healthy resolutions we’ve made for the new year, this is probably not an issue. However, what’s one of the first budget cuts you’ll make when you want to save money later this year?
How often do you undermine your own well-being by cutting corners? Take a gym membership, for example. Perhaps not having one would save you anywhere from $50 to $200 a month. Sounds enticing, doesn’t it?
Wrong. The reality is, exercise on a regular basis is vital to reduce stress levels and help you concentrate and feel happier. These are all very important to keep us motivated to work hard and achieve results in our career and personal life.
So instead of skipping the gym, skip that Starbucks you have every day. Or rather than a cheap fast-food meal on the run, treat yourself to a healthful one that is maybe a little more expensive. In the long haul, the benefits will outweigh the dollar signs.

Do you feel guilty when you put yourself first?

Today we build on last week’s JanYOUary blog entry and discuss the first of the 3 most common mistakes we all make when it comes to putting ourselves first.

1) The guilt of putting yourself first… do you ever feel that?


This one gets a little tricky, so stay with me. There is a huge difference between being selfish and putting yourself first. And we seem to confuse the two all the time.

Let’s take a closer look at the various definitions of “selfish,” according to www.thefreedictionary.com.

1. “Concerned chiefly or excessively with oneself, and having little regard for others.”
2. “Showing or arising from an excessive concern with oneself and a lack of concern for others.”
3. “Caring only or chiefly for oneself; concerned with one’s own interests, welfare, etc.”

When you’re selfish, you do not care about others and their well-being. You could argue such a person has a lack of empathy and compassion for others, too. That tinge of guilt you feel when you think you’re being selfish? It tells us that you actually do care about other people.

So, what is the difference between putting yourself first and the above definitions of selfish? Think of it like the safety instructions on an airplane. Put the oxygen mask on first and then help others. If you start assisting other people before you have your mask on, you’ll most likely suffocate before you get to the other person. You’ll both be dead, and that helps no one.

In putting your mask on first, you will be able to help way more people. And this is how it also works in real life. When you continually put others’ needs before your own, you deplete your resources. In the long run, you’ll have less to give those you love.

Next time you feel guilty about being self-centered, stop and realize why you’re doing it. If your reason is to become more effective, then you’re not being selfish. Everyone around you will thank you later! Start putting yourself first so that you can empower others.


JanYOUary – this month it’s all about you.

JanYOUary is most definitely all about you! As we hit the ground running for a successful year, don’t forget to give yourself some TLC. You have great goals you’ve stet out to accomplish and the best way to achieve them is to keep making good choices that benefit you.

I stumbled across this post by @kristinquinnmom yesterday:
“In the end… I am the ONLY ONE who can give my children a Happy Mother, who loves life”
I love this because it doesn’t only pertain to Moms, it’s applicable to all of us. We can swap out the words to cover everything in life and the lesson stays the same: In the end YOU and only you are in charge of your happiness and your attitude towards life. YOU make this conscious choice.  




Over the next few weeks we’ll dig deeper to help you avoid the 3 common mistakes you make when it comes to choosing YOU.

1) Feeling guilty for putting yourself first. Blog entry scheduled for Jan 13th, sign up to get it delivered to your inbox here.

2) You skip out on your own health to save money. Blog entry scheduled for Jan 20th, sign up to get it delivered to your inbox here.

3)You don’t book personal days/vacations in advance. Blog entry scheduled for Jan 27th, sign up to get it delivered to your inbox here.

Start choosing YOU today and sign up for a great little stay-cation day with me in Boston at my Pilates Pamper workshop or join me this weekend at my Pilates Bootcamp.

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