I am a huge fan of the reality shows “Project Runway” and “Project Runway: All Stars.” I am fascinated by how quickly the designers can transform an idea on paper into a beautiful garment.
This season is nearing its end, and one of my favorite designers recently got eliminated. (Spoiler alert: I am about to tell you his name, so if you’re not caught up, stop reading now.) His parting words really stuck with me and apply to all of us.
Jay said: “The competition got to me, to a point where I overthought things. I became my own worst enemy.”
How often do you do the same? Overthinking leads to confusion, and your confidence takes a beating. I’ve recently come to the conclusion that self-doubt often means you feel stuck. One part of you believes you can do it, while the other says, “Hell, no! There’s absolutely no way. You will fail.”
So how do you shake off that fear?
1. Fake it till you make it. Literally pump yourself up with positive quotes and sayings. Every time a negative thought creeps in, repeat an uplifting mantra. Something like: “I can do this. I am awesome!”
2. Dig down into your fear. Ask yourself: “What is the absolute worst thing that can happen if I fail at this?” Almost always my clients find that this will deflate their anxiety. It helps them to realize that even if you fail, it won’t be as bad as you fear.
3. Recommit. As Jay said: “I became my own worst enemy.” Sometimes you’ll feel stuck and lack confidence because you’re not truly committed to what you’ve set out to do. Ask yourself: Is this really something I want? If the answer is yes, then see what resources you need to help you succeed. If the answer is no, then give yourself permission to let it go and move on.
Remember that you bring something very unique to the table, so don’t let doubt rob you and the world of that special something.
ps – be sure to share this with a friend and join the conversation on the blog by telling me what your favorite mantra is.