How to deal with negativity at work

blogOne of the most trying times in my career was my first year in New York City; I was dealing with a lot of negativity. I had just moved from London and had no real support network in my new city.

Work was a nightmare; there was all the usual office politics, a manager who set me up to fail and a colleague who wanted my blood. I had just left a meeting where my co-worker point blank said: “I’m not here to make friends.” To top it off, I also no longer enjoyed my actual tasks at work either.

The worse thing was feeling completely stuck. I was on a work visa and quitting this job meant bye bye America. I had hit rock bottom; I was lonely, overwhelmed and utterly lost! How did I even let myself get here?

I knew to get myself out of this mess; I’d have to dig deep, use all the coaching wisdom I had uncovered in my sessions the year before. I started to implement them one by one and finally gained back my confidence and control to move on.

Sound familiar?

Here are four strategies you can use to improve your work environment and figure out your next career move faster:

1: Shift your focus.
To get out of any messy situation, you need to shift your focus from the current problem to the solution. (even if you don’t know what the solution is yet, stop thinking about the issue that’s causing anxiety and stress for you.)

2: Commit to staying out of the drama.
Instead of obsessing over the usual work politics and drama, and this includes getting involved in negative conversations about it, start using every opportunity to visualize and strategize how you can do your job better, what is working, and what you’d like your future career to be. Bonus tip: try to see the good qualities in everyone.

3: Verbalize it.

If it’s possible, voice your concerns with your manager or team. Remember to come at this from a compassionate and respectful place. It may be a tough conversation to have, but it’s always better to keep an open dialogue to avoid misunderstandings and a complete breakdown of communication, which will only lead to more annoyance and stress.

4: Hire a life coach.

Working with a life coach will help you keep a level head, look at things more objectively and come up with creative solutions to address and solve the problems at work. A coach will also help you home in on your values and goals. Then the coach will assist you in aligning these takeaways with the demands of your job, or help you clarify a profession that honors them.

Implementing these strategies reduced my stress levels significantly, and a few months later I figured out my next career move!

If you’re currently finding yourself in a similar situation where you feel stuck, undervalued and caught in a company culture that’s not working for you, be sure to join me for my Thriving Career Webinar where I’ll help you develop and design a career that’s perfect for you.

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