I have worked with so many clients who’ve admitted that they’ve been feeling blah about their career for years. Unfortunately that didn’t stop them from aimlessly climbing the corporate ladder. They accepted promotion after promotion without ever really checking in on why or whether they even wanted it.
The problem with doing this is two fold: 1) They wasted their talents and 2) they’ve become stuck.
These clients mostly feel that they didn’t live up to their fullest potential and have ignored their own wisdom for so long that they find it incredibly difficult to get out of their own way so they can find their true passion and purpose.
The longer you continue with this numbing process the more unhappy you’ll get and the harder it will be for you to truly shine and deliver top notch work.
So how do you know when it’s time for you to change jobs or industries?
Here are two key questions you can ask yourself to test if your job is still engaging and fulfilling to you.
Are you happy? Happiness has different meanings for all of us, so you have to figure out what that is for you. Here are a few examples of what make people happy: a big part of your job still makes you feel alive and satisfied, you’re well compensated for what you do, your job is gratifying.
Do you still enjoy your job? In other words: Are you still being challenged and using your strengths, do you feel you have the right work-life-balance for you.
When you know the answer to these two questions and continue to monitor them, you’ll be able to diagnose the state of your career with more ease and take appropriate action to fast track your career.
Now I’d like to hear from you: Are you still happy and enjoying your job? Was there a time you didn’t feel happy in your job? How did you know it was time for you to move on? How did you make the transitions happen? Tell me in the comments below.
Job search fatigue: we’ve probably all been there before. This normally happens when you’re unhappy in your current position and you’re desperately trying to find another. You end up spending all of your free time applying to jobs and it becomes overwhelming. Soon you have zero energy and feel even more miserable than you did before you started looking for a new position.
The question then becomes: How does one prevent burnout during your job search process while keeping yourself positive?
This was exactly what one of the members from the audience from General Assembly’s #OFFCAMPUS event asked me after my talk last week on career development and finding what you love.
I have personally struggled to strike that positive balance while feeling like I’m making progress in my job search efforts.
Here are my tips to help you have more zest during your job hunt:
Come up with a manageable and realistic plan that will support your energy levels. It’s true: “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.” You have to make sure that you leave time in your schedule to socialize with friends and get to the gym.
Speaking of getting to the gym, everyone already knows that going there gives you more energy. Those endorphins you release while exercising makes you happier and less stressed too! Seriously – make sure you incorporate exercise in your routine.
Be patient and know that landing the right job will take time.
Be consistent and persistent in your search for the perfect profession.
When and what are you eating? Believe it or not, the times you eat and what you consume really do matter for more reasons than just wanting to look good. It also has a huge effect on your mood and energy levels. Make sure you fill up often on good nourishing foods to help boost your positivity. (If you want to learn more on this topic I highly recommend you read the “Happiness True Recipe” by Will Marré.)
Lastly, watch the first two tips in Marie Forleo’s video below to help you stay on top of your game:
Now I’d love to hear from you! Have you had job search fatigue before? How did you overcome it? Also feel free to ask me any of your pressing career transitions questions!
Let’s face it changing careers can be stressful, but there are a few steps that you can take to make the transition less daunting.
Here are the 4 things you’ll have to do to make your career transition successful:
Allow yourself to evolve and be creative
Be committed to finding your passion
Compartmentalize your fear
Get out of your own way and just go for it
Let me me explain exactly what I mean here:
When I made my massive industry change from Wall Street broker to Pilates instructor the first time around (that’s right, I actually did a double whammy, which I’ll tell you about soon.) I unknowingly gave myself permission to evolve and think outside the confinements of a typical career. I got really creative with what I wanted and how I could make it happen.
I was fed up enough with my current work environment which meant I was 100% committed to making the leap to find my passion. This strong urge to find something that would make me happy made it a little easier to tell my fear to take a back seat while I figured out what I wanted for my future. You see, I didn’t allow my fear to block me from going for what I wanted most in life. I also realized that the longer I stayed in a job that I strongly disliked the harder it would be to leave eventually.
To remind me of this fact I had a whole bunch of older co-workers who were miserable in their jobs but were completely stuck because they never allowed themselves to think outside of the box or pushed themselves outside their own comfort zone. I knew I didn’t want to wake up one day and be one of those people.
Now don’t get me wrong, I definitely didn’t have it all figured out up front, but here’s what I did know:
I knew I was interested and loved movement,
I knew more or less how much I could earn teaching Pilates and that it would be enough to support the lifestyle I wanted
I gave some room for the process to evolve creatively and didn’t pressure it to be a specific way. Most importantly: I kept believing in myself and worked towards fulfilling my dream of finding a career I was passionate about.
Now I’d love to hear from you:
Have you made a career transition? How did you overcome your fear? What helped you make a successful career transition?
Perhaps you’re thinking of changing jobs? Which one of these tips was most helpful to you? Or what’s holding you back?
Remember your question or answer could help someone else have a rich learning experience too!
As a life coach and career transitions expert I see many people make one big mistake when they’re unhappy in their job.
I can so relate to them and the reasons for making this mistake, because I also made it. As I mentioned in last week’s blog it led to my biggest career regret! Today we’ll discover what this mistake is and how to avoid it.
Let’s dive right into what that terrible error is:
Putting too much pressure on yourself to make a career change happen immediately.
This often happens if:
you’ve been unhappy in a job for too long
you’re in a new job and immediately realize it’s not the right move for you
I personally stayed in a job I didn’t like for too long and it directly led to pressuring myself to get out fast. I was stressed out of my mind all the time and that resulted in me quitting my job before I had things figured out for my next career move. This cost me financially and also hurt my career advancement.
How to avoid this:
As soon as you realize you’re not happy in your job: start to network and think of other possibilities for your career. Make sure that you don’t overload your job hunting schedule and still make time to have fun – try to strike a nice balance. Realize that it will take some time to find that perfect next job. Be as patient as you can be while taking deliberate action to landing a fulfilling career.
Need more help:
Sign up for my FREE #RichCareerChallenge with active steps to help you cultivate a positive mindset, live more now, be social and do away with all the job drama and negativity. These are the 4 ingredients you need to figure out your next career step.
Now I’d love to hear from you! Have you made a successful career transition? How did you make it happen for yourself? Tell us below – remember your answer could help someone else make their transition a reality!
Today I’ll share something that very few people know: My biggest career regret and the secret that led to my career transition aha moment. If you’re not feeling so hot about your career right now, be sure to read right till the end so you can sign up for my #RichCareerChallenge and create your confident and rich career!
2 country transitions, 5 city transitions and 3 career industry transitions later, the one thing I regret more than not figuring out my ultimate career quicker is:
All the time I wasted not living my life
I literally spent countless days being miserable and not having fun. Instead of enjoying the journey as my career plans naturally unfolded, I took it all way too seriously and always felt like I was stuck. I felt that everyone else was living their dream and I was somehow missing out! (thank goodness we didn’t have social media back then, else I’d have some serious FOMO issues.)
You see I personally made the fatal mistake of letting my unhappiness in my career completely consume me. (Spoiler alert: a lot of us do this!)
I would complain about my job constantly. My long stressful office days sucked the life out of my soul and so I declined numerous invitations to go live and do exciting social activities at night or over weekends. These invitations could have given me joy and also freed up brain space and creativity to help me figure out my future career sooner.
I would even push the gym to the side! In my mind I HAD to figure out what I was going to do next and I had to do it right then and there. I put way to much pressure on myself and rush home from work just to hop on the computer to try and figure it all out. I thought I could push my new career out of myself and that Google would give me the answer to my future.
This was a massive mistake for two reasons:
I was isolating myself: a sure way to make yourself even more unhappy.
I was thinking that I could solve my career conundrum all by myself, locked up in my house.
I had literally put my happiness in that present moment on a big fat HOLD. How wrong I was!
I was doing exactly the opposite of what eventually helped me have my aha moment.
The very sad part to me is that I know I’m not alone. I see so many of my friends and my career transition clients do exactly the same thing.
Urgh… it literally makes me sick to my stomach! Look, I get it – this career transition business is important stuff but you don’t have to miss out on life or fun while you’re figuring out your next career move.
And that’s exactly how my career aha eventually happened!
You see in order for you to have your light bulb moment, you need to:
get and keep yourself in a positive frame of mind
start living your life now
get out and be social
do away with all the drama and negativity
And that’s exactly what I’ll help you do in my #RichCareerChallenge, starting Monday March 8th!
In this 10 day challenge I’ll show you:
how to turn your office cubicle into an inspiring confidence boosting oasis
the one thing you need to do daily to help you feel better about your mediocre job
how to shift your focus to what is working in your life and how you can make it work even better
set clear boundaries on how much time you spend thinking of work and your future career
start living a full, happy and rich life now
how to be more productive in your career search
The challenge starts Monday March 8th. Interested in joining this challenge?
What you’ll get when you sign up:
A daily email containing a challenge of the day + inspiring quote
When you follow me on Instagram @hannakeantonelli you’ll also receive daily motivation via my Instagram feed. You’ll also get a secret #hastag so you can cheer on and be part of my successful career transition movement and connect with other like-minded ladies.
You’ll automatically be enrolled in my bi-weekly newsletter with more tips you need to make your successful career transition happen.
Who is this challenge for:
anyone who’s currently unsatisfied with their job
anyone planning a career transition
anyone feeling stuck and pressured to make their next career move quickly
anyone with doubts about their current career trajectory
anyone in the process of applying for new jobs and feeling burned out/discouraged by the job market
And don’t worry you won’t have to think about your job or future one a second longer than you already do, in fact, you’ll think of it less and accomplish more!
Ready to start living now and be happy and confident again?
In the modern world that we live in, with so many amazing opportunities, it’s so easy to overeat at the success buffet, biting off more than you can chew and then being overwhelmed and unsatisfied.
Social media shows us everyone’s wins and amazing accomplishments. In magazines we read all about how celebs have it all: looks, successful acting careers, hot husbands and kids, etc… If you’re an ambitious cookie like myself, all of this may create some internal pressure to start saying yes to any and all opportunities.
That’s normally where it all goes ‘tits up’ as my British broker friends would say. In my last blog entry with Diane Daly, I loved her honest tip: “My advice to working moms or working women who are thinking of starting/expanding their family is that you can have it all – just not all at once.”
Her advice also got me thinking about a few of my favorite topics: goals, choices, balance and of course opportunities. How do you measure the right quantities of each to bake your perfect success story?
If you’re going to have your cake and eat it too, you first need to know exactly what kind of cake you’re baking. Get crystal clear on what you want for all parts of your life: your career, friends, family, fitness, health – what are all the ingredients?
Being crystal clear on what you want will help you to stay focused on your own path and stop you from comparing yourself to others. It will also be way easier to figure out what opportunities to say yes too and which ones to let go.
Here are a few questions to help you get clear and figure out your unique life cake:
What is your definition of success?
What kind of work-life-balance are you looking for?
What are your personal and career goals?
How many hours a week do you want to devote to work, fitness, family etc?
Knowing the answer to these questions will help you seek out specific companies or career opportunities that will help you land the balance you’re looking for.
Try to get as specific as possible and take time regularly to evaluate where you are, where you want to be and adjust accordingly. Remember you can have your cake and eat it too by making choices and saying yes to opportunities that are in line with your ultimate career and life goals.
Now I’d love to hear from you: are you struggling to figure out what the right steps are to take for your career? What’s making it difficult for you? Have you cracked the code to striking the perfect balance between your life and career? Tell me your insights in the comments below. Your question/comment/answer could help someone else!
Today we feature a very special lady: Kristen Scanlon. Kristen is an attorney who started her own business, specializing in Alcoholic Beverages, Food & Entertainment Licensing, Zoning, Permitting and Land Use Development. She’s also my Pilates with Purpose partner-in-crime. I first met Kristen in my Pilates classes a few years back. We quickly realized that we had a lot in common and were both trying to grow our respective businesses. In September 2014 we started the philanthropic networking event: Pilates with Purpose.
Today Kristen’s shares some of her wins and challenges of working for herself with us.
Hanneke: What was the scariest part about leaving the formal law firm setting? Kristen: It’s a tie between 1) not knowing how or when I’d get clients and 2) realizing that every decision now rose and fell on me. It was very nerve-racking to go out on my own and led to a lot of sleepless nights trying to figure it all out at once!
H: What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about working for yourself? K: I’ve been able to gain clarity on my strengths and weaknesses really quickly. There isn’t a ton of room for ignoring weaknesses! For instance, I’ve gotten a lot better at time management and organizing my day because I have to. There is no choice. I have to fit it all in and make my schedule work for me, for my clients and for the growth of my business. It’s different from working in a firm and being told where to be and what to do all the time.
H: What’s been the most rewarding part of working for yourself? K: Successfully completing a task or approval process for a client and knowing I made it happen, not a partner above me in a big firm. Also, being able to build my own relationships directly with clients and the community because a lot of what I do depends on the input of the community.
H: Where do you see your business in 5 years? K: I like that meme that says: “5 year plan: not looking at price tags when I’m shopping.” haha. Maybe with a few employees, I’m really not sure to be honest. I just take it one day at a time with the hopes that the decisions I make have potential to turn into something greater in the future. It’s kind of like a long game of chess. But ultimately I want to be successful in the industry that I’m in.
H: What advice would you like to give others who are thinking of starting their own business? K: Be very clear on the mission of your business. Never be too proud to accept help when it’s offered. Make sure you’ve got the personality and intestinal fortitude to really take a stab at it alone.
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