Heads or tails?
I recently had to make a tough decision: Do I teach more Pilates classes? Literally in just one week I had four teaching opportunities show up in my inbox. And I was so tempted to say yes to all of them.
In the past I would have been very torn and might have said yes simply out of fear of missing out on something good. Later I would have regretted my decision or realized I took on too much. This would have led to dealing with the next set of emotions of failing, letting people down, or being viewed as unreliable and flaky.
Although I was flattered by all the opportunities, it ended up being quite easy to decide which ones to pursue and which to let go of.
Here’s how I did it:
1. Clarity. At the beginning of the year I set very strategic goals for myself. As you know, I’m trying to ramp up my life-coaching business, and as a result I’ve set clear guidelines of when and how much I should be teaching Pilates. Anything beyond than those guidelines is a big “no thank you!”
2. Abundance. I believe opportunities are a little like buses: There will always be another one. No, it won’t be the same one, but if you really want something and work for it, other ventures will come your way. So if you let this one go and realize later you should have taken it, manifest a new possibility for yourself. This also pulls you away from the “what if I make a mistake?” mindset.
3. Trusting my gut. If an opportunity doesn’t excite me, I don’t go for it. Yes, initially I was thrilled by the variety, but then as time went by, the excitement for some of them wore off. I immediately scratched them off my list and moved on. I literally set them free for someone else to have, knowing that the right opportunity will come my way when it’s ready.
Now I’d like to hear from you. How do you decide whether an opportunity is right for you? Or perhaps you struggle to know which is the best one? What’s making it hard to decide? Tell me in the comments below.