So I was driving to class the other night and Kelly Clarkson’s song “Stronger” came up on the radio. Nothing better than turning the volume way up and singing along at the top of your lungs. Even better was that the words to the song inspired this post.
Kelly Clarkson: Stronger
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, stronger
Just me, myself, and I
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn’t mean I’m lonely when I’m alone
Yes, this song is ultimately about a breakup. But there are also two powerful lessons to apply to life in general:
1) “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”
Letting go of people who don’t serve you in a positive way is crucial to moving onward and upward. So is shedding things that don’t help you attain your ultimate goal. That doesn’t mean it won’t hurt a little or be difficult. Remember: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, stand a little taller.” You want to look at the bigger picture and your longer-term goals.
2) “Doesn’t mean I’m lonely when I’m alone”
Society puts a strange amount of pressure on never being alone: You’re supposed to be in a couple or always with friends. On a subconscious level this feeds into our brains and inner selves. Which makes us think being alone is either embarrassing or bad for you.
But the famous line that “you can’t give love if you don’t love yourself” bears more truth than you might realize. You were put on this earth as a perfect little package. You already have everything you need to survive within you, to guide you and help you get what you want out of life. I like to refer to this as your inner wisdom.
All the other friendships and connections are icing on the cake, helping you to be an even happier person. But if you’re only latching on to everything and everyone else outside of yourself to find your happiness, you’re in for a huge disappointment. Your happiness starts inside yourself: “Just me, myself, and I.”
In today’s Action Steps, learn how to love your own company.
1) Take yourself to lunch, dinner, a movie, or whatever you enjoy. Appreciate the “you” time.
2) Make a list of all your good qualities and give yourself a high five for being a fun and loving person.
3) Who or what are the negative pitfalls that keep you from achieving your goals? Spend less time and energy or avoid these altogether.
I have a special announcement for next week’s newsletter, so be sure to get your friends to sign up for my newsletter and share in the excitement. Enjoy the last little bit of summer!