3 Mistakes you’re making while networking

Having moved countries and cities a few times you can pretty much say my life has been one big networking event! From forming new friendships, to landing jobs and growing my business – making the right connections are crucial!

By now, you’re probably very familiar and good at networking too! However, after wasting some much valuable time on a few networking coffee dates recently, and talking with others who had similar experiences, I realized that most of us can use a refresher on networking to help us avoid some time sucking mistakes.

It’s so important to have a good networking strategy: a) because it will save you time and b) because in the end you can’t accomplish anything without good connections who can help you!

Here are 3 mistakes you’re making while networking:

1) You only network for yourself:
When you’re at a networking event, stop thinking solely about what it is that you need to get out of it. Start being curious about the other person and how you can perhaps help them too! It’s not always a scratch your back you scratch mine situation. Sometimes you’ll help one person and then the karma will come back to you from a completely different angle. So serve others and let Karma take care of the rest for you.

2) You have a long boring intro about yourself:
Yawn… seriously!? No no no no no! Lead in with something interesting about your job, something other people can relate or understand. Just think how boring it is when someone just says: “My name is Blah and I’m a divorce lawyer.” Someone’s deduction may go: smart, boring, and great at charging people to wreck their lives. Now if this Divorce Lawyer would have said:”I help people get out of their marriages with minimal financial damage,” they would have had my attention.

Or a Marketing consultant:”I help small business owners be the center of attention in the market place.” You see how that immediately pricks your curiosity and automatically raises a few questions? In having a cool little intro, you’ll make sure that you engage people in conversation and no longer have to stand there trying to make awkward conversation!

3) You only network with people in your industry:

If you’re a business owner, this one is crucial! Start attending networking events that you know your ideal clients will attend. Don’t just go to networking events for other business owners (unless of course that’s your target market). Really spend some time thinking where you’ll get the most ROI for your time! (And hint to all the single ladies out there: you can even do this little exercise to figure out where you can find your ideal man. Example: If you’re looking for a well traveled fella with a more international social circle, you’re probably going to want to visit some bars near Kendall Square vs if you were looking for a sport loving Boston born and raised boy – which most likely would be hanging out in Southie. ;P)

So whether you’re looking for a new job or a hunk, make sure you know:

1) What you’re looking to get out of the networking event.

2) How to introduce yourself in a more interesting way that provokes conversation.

3) How you can help others and add value for them with referrals or introduction!

4) Who and where your ideal client/future bosses would be socializing or networking.

Now I’d love to hear from you! What are your best networking tips for us. Tell us below so we can all learn how to get better at this important step to help us fast track our careers!


Pilates with Purpose: debut event September 24th

I am so excited to finally announce this! I have literally been dreaming this up for months and thanks to Kristen Scanlon Esq. (Of Counsel)‘s help ( who it turns out had similar dreams.) it’s slowly shaping into reality! I’ll be sure to share more of the history of where this idea came from soon, but first, let’s give you the quick DL on Pilates with Purpose!


What is Pilates with Purpose:

Pilates with Purpose is a newly developed networking opportunity like no other. Gone are the days of having to skip the gym to attend a boring networking event.    Learn how you can stay fit, build your network and be charitable all in one evening. Move.  Every event will start with a 45-minute Pilates class taught by award-winning instructor, Hanneke Antonelli.  Give.  All proceeds related to the event will go to a local Boston charity (we’ll pick a different one every month to spread around our support!) We focus on empowering professional women to build community and support for their hectic every day lives, while supporting women and children in need to do the same.  Connect.  After class, you’re invited to mingle and encouraged to build new connections and strengthen your referral network with like-minded professionals. Sign up to receive news about our upcoming events. We look forward to meeting you!

For our very first event we’ve partnered with the peeps from District Hall for their Welcome Wednesdays event September 24th, 2014. Sign up here to attend the event. We’ll be there with many other vendors and it’s bound to be a fun and lively night! I’ll be teaching a 45min Pilates session starting around 6pm (exact times and more details to follow). We’ll be accepting donations for Cradles to Crayons via Welcome Wednesday’s Eventbrite page. Reserve your spot now!

We are excited to have you as part of our community. We are currently gearing up to bring you exciting networking opportunities every month. Events that will keep you fit, help grow your network and make a difference in the lives of those in need.

Wanna get involved?

We are currently looking for venues to host  Pilates with Purpose nights. We need a space big enough to fit about 30 yoga mats. Know any cool spots around town?

Contact us now:
Hanneke Antonelli at hannekeantonelli@gmail.com
Kristen Scanlon at kristen.scanlon@gmail.com

A big thank you to Leanne Feris who sparked the idea! (More about that later)