Positive or negative: It’s your choice.

A few months ago my skin was totally acting up. As in, “Hello again, teenage acne!” I had been to a few dermatologists, spent $400 on prescriptions, and still the nasty intruders kept showing up to have a little party on my face.

Fed up, I turned to Google and discovered much more than I had been looking for. I found this thought-provoking sentence that got me thinking about much more than just clear skin.

“Let’s get real: Strategy really means nothing if you don’t have the mindset to back it up.”

That came from “The Love Vitamin,” a blog by Tracy Raftl, who teaches women how to heal their skin naturally.

Bingo, Tracy. You can have all the plans and tools in the world and come up with all the necessary action steps. But if you’re not in the right frame of mind, you won’t achieve a thing. There are also studies that suggest about 70 to 80 percent of our daily thoughts are negative.

But how on earth do you sustain a positive mindset that’s also focused?

Here are my top three tools to combat negativity and achieve anything you dream of:

1.   Meditate. Taking only 10 minutes a day to be quiet and center and ground yourself works wonders to move you to a headspace conducive to success.
2.   Be grateful. Rather than think about what you don’t have, focus on what you do have and appreciate those gems. “Trade your expectations for appreciation, and your whole world changes instantly.” – Tony Robbins
3.   Stop talking smack. Lose the gossip and hurtful talk about others. Instead, praise people more for their achievements. When you give compliments and you see how much people appreciate them, you, too, will instantly feel happier and more positive.

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Remember: “ We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle

Oh, and my skin? It’s much better now, thanks to a few supplements recommended by “The Love Vitamin”: more water and sleep.

Now I’d love to here from you: what are your top tips to combat negativity? Leave your comments below!

And then Tony Robbins said…


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I recently watched Marie Forleo’s, a best-selling American author, web TV host, and trainer in personal development, interview with Tony Robbins, American life coach and self-help author.

In the interview Marie’s asks Tony Robbins: “What do you do every day? How do you keep yourself at this high level of service?”  Tony mentions a few things, including something he calls “Priming”. This grabbed my attention. He does this for at least 10 minutes EVERY morning. This habit really resonated with me and so I have decided to implement it into my own life.

Follow these action steps to implement a similar routine to help you start your day off right:

  1. Let’s take Tony’s advice and start with just 10min. And before you go – “I don’t have 10minutes.” – here’s more wise words from Tony: “If you don’t have 10minutes, you don’t have a life.”  So just set your alarm 10 minutes earlier and let’s go!


  1. Ok so now you’re up 10 minutes early, what now? You can mimic Tony’s ritual: take a couple of minutes to just bring awareness to your breath, then 3ish more minutes to be grateful for 3 things in your life and the rest of the 10 to send love and healing to people in your life. (I am combining the grateful and healing portion and taking the last 3ish minutes to reconnect with my purpose/goals.)


  1. If Tony’s ritual is a little too much for you, just start with 10 minutes of meditation. Here’s a quick 10 minutes guided meditation. Why? It is a simple way to get your mind to focus, reconnect and help you to have a meaningful day.

Still a little skeptical? I can appreciate than, I mean heck, here I am: “the expert” – telling you that I am only now implementing this morning ritual? How do I even know this will work? Here’s how, what Tony is essentially practicing is “awareness”. And the one thing I can tell you for a fact is that awareness is the most important ingredient in creating change. I have personally experienced this and have seen it time and time again with my clients.

Come up with a practice that works best for you. Remember this is not a set in stone ritual, you can tailor it to fit your needs. Think about a few things that help you relax and focus? How can you use that to formulate a morning routine for yourself?

Try it and let me know how it goes! Do you already have a morning ritual? Do share yours below.